Schema Therapy

Understanding the deep patterns beneath your struggles — and healing them at their roots.


Sometimes we find ourselves repeating the same painful patterns in relationships, emotions, thoughts, or behaviors — even when we deeply want things to change. You may struggle with feelings of abandonment, emotional deprivation, shame, self-criticism, perfectionism, people-pleasing, difficulty trusting others, or feeling "not good enough." These long-standing patterns often develop from unmet emotional needs and difficult experiences earlier in life.

Schema Therapy is a powerful and deeply transformative approach that helps identify and heal these core emotional patterns — known as "schemas" — that continue to affect your present life and relationships. Rather than only focusing on symptoms, Schema Therapy works to understand the deeper roots of emotional pain and create lasting emotional change.

As an Advanced ISST Certified Schema Therapist Supervisor & Trainer (Individual) and an Advanced Level Certified Schema Therapist in Group Schema Therapy, I specialize in helping clients understand the connection between their past experiences, emotional needs, coping styles, and current struggles.

Schema Modes

Alongside schemas, Schema Therapy works with schema modes — the emotional states and coping responses we shift into when a schema is triggered. A mode might be the frightened inner child who shuts down, the inner critic who attacks, or the part that overcompensates to feel safe.

In therapy, we work together to strengthen what Schema Therapy calls the Healthy Adult mode — the part of you that can nurture, protect, guide, and care for yourself in balanced and compassionate ways.

Integrated Approaches

I integrate Schema Therapy with other evidence-based approaches to best support your healing:

  • DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)
  • EMDR Therapy
  • Sandtray Therapy
  • Attachment-Focused Therapy
  • Emotion-Focused and Experiential Techniques

Through this process, many clients begin to feel more emotionally connected, confident, balanced, and empowered in their lives and relationships.

In-person and virtual therapy sessions are available. Please call or email to schedule a consultation.

Ji Young Kim, M.A., LPC-S

Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor
Advanced ISST Schema Therapist Supervisor & Trainer, Individual

SCHEMA THERAPY CAN HELP WITH

  • Chronic Anxiety or Depression
  • Relationship Difficulties
  • Low Self-Esteem and Shame
  • Emotional Disconnection or Loneliness
  • People-Pleasing & Difficulty Setting Boundaries
  • Perfectionism and Self-Criticism
  • Fear of Rejection or Abandonment
  • Trauma and Attachment Wounds
  • Emotional Dysregulation
  • Long-Standing Personality Patterns
  • Difficulty Feeling Fulfilled or Secure

THE 18 SCHEMAS — 5 DOMAINS

Domain 1 — Disconnection & Rejection

Abandonment · Mistrust/Abuse · Emotional Deprivation · Defectiveness/Shame · Social Isolation

Unmet needs for safety, love, and belonging.

Domain 2 — Impaired Autonomy & Performance

Dependence/Incompetence · Vulnerability to Harm · Enmeshment · Failure

Difficulty functioning independently or succeeding.

Domain 3 — Impaired Limits

Entitlement/Grandiosity · Insufficient Self-Control

Difficulty with internal limits or respecting others.

Domain 4 — Other-Directedness

Subjugation · Self-Sacrifice · Approval-Seeking

Excessive focus on others at the expense of oneself.

Domain 5 — Overvigilance & Inhibition

Negativity/Pessimism · Emotional Inhibition · Unrelenting Standards · Punitiveness

Suppression of feelings to meet rigid internal rules.

SCHEMA MODES

Child Modes

Vulnerable, Angry, Impulsive — emotional states rooted in unmet childhood needs.

Maladaptive Coping Modes

Surrender, Avoidance, Overcompensation — protective responses that now create pain.

Dysfunctional Parent Modes

Punitive or Demanding Parent — internalized critical voices from early life.

Healthy Adult Mode

The goal of Schema Therapy — a grounded, compassionate inner state that guides with wisdom.